My letter to Susan about Ian Bowen
Prologue:
A little Note:
I have just forwarded this to Susan, but feel it would be in everyone's interest to read it. It is from the heart and tells my story plainly and clearly. It will make others aware of who they are dealing with. Yours sincerely, Sylvia FC
The Letter:
Dear Susan,
I know well how you must have been feeling from the beginning till now.
Perhaps you don't know, but he (Ian Bowen) had been stalking me
all the time, I have never known what my fault was!
I have never published my anger, like you have done now, I only wrote one poem (on this matter) called THIS MAN, BRUTAL and RUDE! and many PF friends had sympathy with me, like they have now with you.
Since I am a newcomer, I chose to remain silent, but in fact I wanted him that he'll leave PF himself, because how he'd been using words to me, will make PF be a "dirty place" and not a place for genuine poetry nor poets. It's a shame a man who calls himself a poet, writing beautiful poetry, while on the other hand a black side was mastering him in his very soul to "pull down" PF writers who don't want to share the same thoughts as he had at that moment.
He was "cleaning up our Poetfreak Site from clones and plagiarists" and he called himself "the keeper of..." I don't know anymore whatelse!
BUT he only changed his name, clever done, because since then every word he had written to "stalk" me, was erased of course, after this he chose the name RUSSIANLAD.
I thought perhaps I am a newcomer. First he made me belong to "his friends" then he deleted me again from his list, of course
I started asking him, he replied as if he were a sick man, mentally: one time very kind when he needed something from me, when he had got all done, then he changed the tone of his messages: short, threatening. This is to my opinion, Susan, like you have experienced too, I am sure.
Look, I know why he did like that to me. The only reason was, that I have kept my friendship with a certain person in PF then, whom Ian Bowen regarded as a copyist.
He started threatening me from that moment on. I told him that I know perfectly what that means "copying", but that does not mean that I'll break my friendship with that person. I told him not to mix those two things.
I never denied that that person was a copyist. What Ian Bowen wanted to do with that person, is his problem, but don't ask me to break up with that person. This had nothing to do with his activity.
From that moment on, he started to write to me short but brutal messages. I thought by myself, he wanted to keep PF site clean from copyists, OK, he had my support, but don't turn into a "devil" when things don't go as he wanted to. He cannot force me.
I got the feeling that I had offended his ego. Keeping our PF site clean, OK, but don't start threatening the persons, when they don't want to walk in the same street as he was doing.
He must handle that problem with great maturity and not like a grown-up.
Epilogue:
Dear Susan, with this letter I want to show you my sympathy and I let you know that you are not alone with this immatured identity.
Please, read my poem "This man, brutal and rude" December 27th 2011.
All his doings point at a certain illness in human health: that of a bright lightside and deep darkness-side in his innersoul which we call...
Best wishes from,
Sylvia Frances Chan
Thank you for your comment. I thought he has stopped with his threatening innocent poets, as the latest news I read in the postings of Steve through Kath's that at first place he was after me when I came for the first time in Poetfreak. How is this possible! When Steve hadn't found anything "wrong" about me, except websites that I designed myself (this is my great hobby like poetry), so he continued with his chasing other poets and "caught" the one nearest to me. BINGO, so that poet left our site, but he was finished with me! What must we do as poets who don't have time at all for such immatured behaviour? And such unfriendly comments on good poems. Now he said that I am out of revenge. This is not true, why is he not aware which damage he had done unto me with all his actions? Then he continued with his next "job". To solve one problem with another....? I had never posted one nasty message of him, while he constantly gave rude comments on some of my poems. It's alright with my coming forward, but I am just like you, do you see now that this has nothing to do with being diplomatic. He gave himself an extra job saying keeping the site clean from copyists. This is what he always tells every poet and so we have to be thankful to him that he is the keeper of.... Honestly, if he enjoys doing so, please do... I don't have time for such...Once again, thank you that you respond...
I can not say threatened, but very persistant that I follow his lead.. Sending me message after message.. I can't say that I know all that went on with the copist I just don't have that kinda of time to look into it all..I hope we can all put this away and be kind and considerate.. We are all of very different personalities may have to look to be diplomatic... Thanks for coming forward my friend, we can't solve one problem with another.. Cat
Chan, I know it's hurting but let it be forget and forgive. It's no use throwing stones on the mud because it splashes back on us. There goes a story about the Buddha. In brief, when he went to a village some people stared abusing him. He said to them, "You are abusing your self." He explained to them if they gave him something and he did not accept it it will go back to the giver. The same way he didn't accept their abuses, so they went back to the abusers. So abnormals have to be forgiven because they themselves don't know what they are doing. Let there be peace.
For my dear POETFREAK friends: so sorry having put the lines too far, my apologies dear ones! Best wishes from me, Sylvia FC
Your comment below: IAN BOWEN alias Иан Бoэн Sylvia, your friend was caught cheating on every poem she wrote, and left the site. This is simply a letter of revenge.________________________________________________________________________________ My letter to Susan, a letter of REVENGE? He always thinks of REVENGING poets, THIS IS A PART OF the DISESASE he is SUFFERING FROM, but he himslef does not know that he is VERY ILL NOW! ______________________________________________________________________________________ My reply to the man who called himself RUSSIANLAD alias Иан Бoэн now, the ex- IAN BOWEN, I just take a piece from STEVE's letter to KATH where my name is mentioned! THIS HAS HAPPENED BEHIND MY BACK, I hadn't the slightest idea WHY THIS MAN called IAN BOWEN was after me, while he was sending a message at that time with the news, that he was after my good friend, but IN FACT HE WAS AFTER ME FIRST, but FOUND NOTHING, and so the next victim was my good friend.....WHAT A SHAME!!______________________________________________________________________________________ As STEVE THORN was telling to KATH about YOU, you have read this piece yourself and so we all have done it too: I was then asked by Ian to do searches on the member Sylvia Chan, which I did but found nothing but a website she designed herself and nothing else. This happened around the time that the site was either hacked or crashed due to tech problems.. ______________________________________________________________________________________
Wise words, Richards...wise advice too
There will always be people who put themselves on a pedestal, who think they outrank everyone else, who believe it is their call to put everyone else in their place. I remember Ian from my old account. He thought I was making light of one of his poems. But I have a dry humour that isn't always understood. I suggested if he felt the comment was insufficient, he ought delete it and we'd refrain from commenting on eithers work. It's worked well since and I've no complaints. Since then I've noticed the name changes and the warnings. It is not his place to police anything. Nobody made him god. Write what you love to write and share as much of it as possible. Have you any idea how many smiles you've created with your work? How many people had to read twice just to drink in all the thoughts you put down into words? That's why we're here. Not to worry about a control freak. We write. That's what we do. We can survive any such struggle. Great write Silvia. Power to the people.
Sylvia, I have forgiven that man, when three years ago, he called me a "POET BEGGAR" in the other site. I thought he was a kind person when I happened to drop by his site..I was really hurt..and now, he is here, but I just kepphim in my prayers always.He needs prayers.Tha's all I can say..I FORGIVE HIM..Thanks, Sylvia..you are brave..And I love you for that, and very rpoud of you, my friend!!
Be free, frank and fearless! Settle the matter then and there! What you have done is appreciate I too feel! Never keep hurt within and suffer! Give vent to your feeling then and there in poems as a poet!
Sylvia, your friend was caught cheating on every poem she wrote, and left the site. This is simply a letter of revenge.
You have been brave enough to bring your grievances to public awareness, Sylvia. The "ignore and delete" policy is OK as far as it goes, but it doesn't always go far enough.
wow..brave lady..keep it up!!! m very happy to read this,I know u have guts to right this kind of stuff.I am totally wid u.Everyone has rights to write their feeling n u did good job. U r such a true person..god bless!!!
Sylvia talks truth...She had informed me of this, weeks back, when I released my post in support to Kath
Thank you so much Mike, Dorothy and Kath! True honesty must be uttered, especially after having read Susan's posting, old anger comes up again. Then I've got a little push from the angel behind me telling: you have to publish this letter Sylvia, otherwise no one would know exactly how Ian Bowen really is. He has no right insulting fellow-poets whenever he wants. When he regards someone a clone or a copyist, just warn him/her to leave the site, but do not act as if he were a soldier in Hitler's time....
How similar you story is to mine Sylvia! It's almost frighteningly so. I know from my own experience how very difficult it is to step forward and tell anyone at all what is happening. I commend you for your bravery and sincerity. kath xxxxx
Sylvia, I must say I miss talking to you but only because I have been busy here where I live making apperances for "Black History Month"...I once had a slight encounter with Ian but ignored him and he went away although my comment count from my list of "Friends" went way way way down...If I get more than 3 or 4 four on a poem it is a miracle. The few time he comment on a poem of mine it was negative. He is very much admired by some of the poets. Your letter is wonderful and most informative. I am so sorry this is happening to you and it is so sad for what was once considered a top knotch site for poets. You must stay strong and this message is for Susan too. Come back and visit me when time allows. Dorothy A Poet Who Loves To Sing
Correction of below, please: BINGO, so that poet left our site, but he was NOT finished with me YET! Thank you for your attention, Sylvia FC